No one was more surprised than I when my German publisher announced that the title of that version of my book would be Warum man weniger lernen sollte, um mehr Sex zu haben, which, translated into English, is the title of this post. Apparently, if you are German this title is amusing – as evidenced by the two little books doing it “doggy style” on the cover – but I have to admit that it is not a topic that I have ever explored, until today.
The Sunday Times asked me how the new markets for sex and love were affecting marriage and divorce. Here are my thoughts in a column in this Sunday’s paper,
Dirty Money (aka ‘Dollars and Sex’) hits book stores in the UK today! Over the next few days there are many articles appearing in the UK press which I will post on my media page.
A few weeks ago the Wall Street Journal asked me to comment on where marriage is heading in the future as the result of economic forces. You can read the piece I wrote for them here.
Buzzfeed asked me if the outcome of the current budget debates in the US will affect people’s sex lives – you can see that article along with some very cool graphics here.
There’s so much talk about Dollars and Sex in the media this week it is hard to keep up with it all! Please check out my media page for the lastest in TV, radio and print.
Two men are observationally identical — same education, same years of experience — and yet one earns 16% less than the other. Why? Because the lower income earning man has, at some point in the last five years, had sex with another man. That might sound like evidence of workplace discrimination, but new research argues that gay men are trading off higher salaries in favor of working in more tolerant firms.
I am extremely pleased to announce that Dollars and Sex is now being hosted at Psychology Today. I will continue to post my blogs on this page as well, but if you want to join the debate I encourage you to hop over to my new blog.
Dollars and Sex: How Economics Influences Sex and Love hits the shelves in Canadian bookstores today and in New Zealand and Australia tomorrow! Media coverage of the book’s release can been seen on the media page of this site. Readers in the US market will have to wait a few more weeks before they can get a copy and those in the UK will be able to get a copy in May.
Photo credit Mauricio Drelichman, who bought his copy as soon as it hit the shelves.
Two years ago, we were out on a busy street when my darling son turned to me and asked loudly “Oh my god Mom! Are you sure you don’t have syphilis?!” I don’t, of course, but apparently after watching an episode of the medical TV series House he had decided that “Are you sure you don’t have syphilis?” was a perfectly good substitute for the expression “Are you crazy?” Needless to say, he has never said it again.
A few years ago, I attended a graduation ceremony in which the award for academic achievement in every department in the faculty of science was awarded to a woman. At the time, I wondered: if the roles were reversed, would we not be wondering why one group was so over-represented at the top of the class?
A few weeks ago, when we were talking about educated lap dancers, I wondered if any of my students were paying their way through school working in the sex trades. At the time I had in mind lap dancers, sex workers, escorts, et cetera. I never imagined that there were students paying their way through school, not by selling their own bodies (that part was easy to imagine), but by selling the bodies of others. Yesterday in my sex and love class we had a guest speaker (via video) who had done just that; he paid for a commerce degree at a Canadian university working as a pimp.
Media stories on the sugar daddy / sugar baby phenomena are quick to assume that there’s an economic story behind the rise in this type of arrangement, and in that they are right. The question is; are they telling the right economic story? Are these types of relationships on the rise simply because of poor macroeconomic conditions or is there another story that explains the increase in supply of willing participants?
This week’s Pew Center report finding that the rate of interracial marriage in the US continues to rise garnered very little attention presumably because we are all familiar with this trend. I thought, however, it was worth mentioning some points within that report that we should be talking about.
Here we are again at that time of the year when we are encouraged to replace our eggnog with diet shakes and to join some weight loss program or another. One (somewhat annoying) commercial this year features a boney actress swinging her hips erratically while proclaiming, “This program saved my marriage!” Repeated viewing of this ad has led my kids to ask, what kind of man would leave his wife just because she gained a few extra pounds?
When I walked away from my four-year marriage, many years ago, friends and family members wanted to know why I would leave what they had believed to be a happy marriage. That wasn’t an easy question to answer, not for me and especially not for the man I was leaving.
There was a collective bi-partisan freak out last week when the Pew Research Center released a report finding that U.S. birth rates hit a record low in 2011. Before doing anything crazy, like implementing social programs the rest of the developed world has enjoyed for decades, I recommend taking a closer look at the numbers to see that really, this is good news.
Imagine that I conduced a small study of women who were on a beach one sunny summer day. I split the women into two groups, those who are wearing nothing but string bikini bottoms and those that are wearing one-piece speedos. I tell you that the topless women report feeling more confident, do you then conclude that being topless is good for self-esteem?
Women are to blame for bringing an end to marriage. The evidence is fairly straightforward; spending more time in school, and earning higher incomes, made women angry and that “pissed off” men; so pissed off, in fact, that they have decided to never marry. Ever.
Marriage just isn’t what it is used to be. And while that might not be news, there is new research suggesting that changing marriage patterns predict a trend towards more cautious household investment behaviour.